Art of Vision

Monday, December 18, 2017

"Where there is no vision, the people will perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he," (Proverbs 29:18 KJV)

As the month is beginning to come to a close I wanted to highlight on something that I believe has became the shortfall of a lot of creatives today and that is the absence of vision. I, too struggled with vision for quite sometime but to understand took for me to make steady strides in understanding myself and spending time with God. 

Be advised: Life is a marathon, you won't ever get the full picture only fragments of it.

Where Do I Begin?
To commence, without God there is no vision.. TRUST. 
As humans, we can't bear all of the battles that we endure here on Earth. In our hour of confusion and hopelessness we find ourselves reaching out to friends who aren't even in the same season as us for guidance; for all of that, you find yourself back pedaling to square one. Those "on-going" feelings of pessimism and confusion is a problem that nobody can solve but God because he is our creator, he knows us like no other.

For many, the term "Vision" alone may come off as abstruse, but vision is tied to you and the purpose you are here to serve.


"What problem in the world are you the solution to?"

Be A Voice, Not An Echo
Set yourself apart amongst those who carry the same pursuit as you.
To make sense of what I'm saying, the reason why Drake is Drake, Kevin Hart is Kevin Hart, why Viola Davis is Viola Davis is because they are true to themselves. A key component of having vision is to better understand that you are not like anyone else and that alone is your power. But the reality is, too many people are trying to be like the people who have vision that they oversee their own potential [AND IF YOU'RE READING THIS DON'T BE THAT PERSON].

FOCUS ON YOU UNTIL THE FOCUS IS ON YOU ;)
Love you guys!

Vol. 2

Sunday, November 26, 2017

[Music is the soul of language]

Welcome back to another Wine&Chill Playlist.
The Wine & Chill playlist will now be on iTunes, so pour yourself a glass of wine 
and experience some soul. 

Vol. 2 Wine and Chill Playlist Click Here.
"Immerse in some soul

 IN CASE YOU MISSED VOL. 1 CLICK HERE.

Mastering Your Essence

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

"Live up to your potential instead of imitating someone else's," (Martha Burgess)

In this generation of social media, everyone is so caught up trying to be a carbon-copy of someone else that they lose contact of who they truly are at heart. 

Lifestyle vs. Passion
Social media makes everyone want to be a youtuber, a makeup guru, an artist, a comedian, and so on and so forth. But before you guys try to drag me, spare me and allow me to elaborate on that statement.

 My program director told me once: 
"If the glitz and glamour of it all was stripped away from it would you still pursue it?

So my question to you is are you pursuing what you're pursuing because of the lifestyle or are you pursuing what you're pursuing because it is truly something that you have a burning passion for. Owing to the fact that social media makes us admire the lifestyle of these influencers, we almost forget the workload that is required of it.

"You have to fancy the work that is required just as much as you do the lifestyle"


Comparatively, that is why a lot of people start Youtube channels and don't post in a consistent manner or at all because in order to get those desired "views" it calls for you to be consistent and hard-working and most people can't live up to those expectations.

Like Wendy Williams said in her Live Leadership Talk, "You have to study the behind the scenes of your desired career." That is absolutely true because the lifestyle may look glamorous but there are a lot of sleepless nights, overtime work, and a whole lot of hustling that needs to be put in. But as I would tell anyone if you're truly passionate about something hard work and consistency comes naturally; being lazy isn't an option.

Mastering Your Essence: First They Laugh, Then They Copy
I remember being a freshman in Highschool (2012) and I had dark, aesthetically pleasing photos on my Instagram. I loved my feed up until one day a person told me that my feed was weird and too old school.
[It was at this moment that I f***ked up]
I thought to myself, "well maybe that person is right," so I changed my Instagram feed back to what everyone else was doing. In the means of me compromising, a good friend of mine (Quadir) told me that I should stick to that vibe because, "Eventually everyone is going to want to hop on that wave sooner or later," and he was absolutely right. 

BE BOLD, BE DIFFERENT
People don't understand your vision until it becomes something that is sought after and soon enough it becomes something that they imitate. I know you're aware of the common saying, "First they laugh, then they copy." However, an original is worth more than a copy. So my advice to anyone who is trying to master their own essence the key is to honestly stay true to yourself and not to compromise to the norms of society. 

Vizual Ape

Thursday, November 2, 2017

What I like about photographs is that they capture a moment that’s gone forever, impossible to reproduce” (Karl Lagerfeld).

Meet photographer Fritz M. Metayer, who is widely known as Vizual Ape by many. 
At only the age of 21 Fritz, has accomplished many major milestones. And to get to where he is today of course took a lot of sleepless nights, hard-work, and one hell of a burning passion. 
I was given the opportunity to interview this millennial boss. Lets dive in. 

Who is Vizual Ape? 
Ape is a young photographer who lives in his own little world. I think of myself as nonexistent. Im in this kind of world that doesn't exist to anyone because they don't understand it. So I explain it through pictures. Vizual ape is a guy who sends burst of energy through images. I capture emotions and give it to a crowd of people hoping they feel the same energy I do.

Who or what sparked your interest in Photography and when did it dawn on you that it was something you were deeply passionate about?
My father. He was a photographer and his style was hella vintage and clean. I liked him because he took pictures of everything including himself. When I was a kid I shot my first wedding along side of my dad. He bought me a big bird from sesame street camera haha. Then I got to college and I linked up with Rico (@Love4Rico) and from iPhone pictures to camera pictures - that fascination dates back to my childhood.

How would you describe your style of photography?
Dark. I'm a really dark person; I love black and outer space. I like scary shit and shit that seems unreal. I like giving out vibes that relax the mind and make people really have to look. So I'd say my style is beyond this world. Portraits are my favorite thing though. 

Where do you typically find inspiration?
Vibes. I like catching vibes, usually from music; my favorites are Travis Scott, PartyNextDoor. and a little Drizzy. Tumblr helps me to dream too and women haha. Females are one of the things that are always on people's minds. And The way females make me feel is usually spilled into my art. I like talking to women because they think different; it's more of a feeling than a conversation. All my life females told me that I had this dark kind of vibe, a really chill kind and I learned myself from those convos and interactions.

Who is, by far, your favorite photographer(s) of all time?

How do you stay organized being as busy as you are?
F*** organization, it makes me move slower haha. Usually I'll just wake up and my days are based off of phone calls or running into people in the city. Then going from place to place working until the next day and doing it again and again. When things started getting serious I had to get a manager, so I'd say my manager organizes things for me.

I see that you are a sensational, uprising industry photographer. What opportunity did you land that propelled such success? What was the experience like?
When I first started I was in college and there were always parties. I would go to these parties with my camera and make videos and stuff just to practice controlling large groups of people. Then I started going to events hosted by celebrities and I would give it my all because they were important to me at the time. I remember being in the party scene linking with DJ’s and through that I made connections. I wasn't as gifted back then but I was really different and got a lot of attention and support. I started running into FatBoy a lot and he would post my work and that really helped. Then after a while I started realizing to make it you have to take chances. I started going to New York every single day even ditching classes to go to the city and I started making progress. Started linking with people from Hot 97 and going to the station to link Drewski which landed me some opportunities as well and I really just took advantage of every situation handed to me. I started moving around with a huge influencers who are actually really close with Drake now (@ItsBizKit) and just worked and from there I can't tell, I just got far I'd say. Now I'm currently working with Atlantic Records in New york which is a great look for me. I never thought I'd have one of the biggest record labels ever be one of my clients moreover free lancing with celebrities, traveling, shooting shows, hanging out, and going out on tours.. its really cool. It mentally takes a lot though. I never get too sleep, I barely eat, I work 24/7 and I'm always in front of a large group of people or traveling waking up in different places. People really don't know how to talk to me sometimes because of what I do and who I hang out with. 
I stay really humble and down too earth. Just trying not to get lost, its a lot of pressure in that field. 

What keeps you motivated?
I never really had much, my family wasn't poor or anything, but me, personally I never had much. I just wanted to be comfortable and have full control over my life. Hearing what people think of me and my art definitely pushes me because I realized that I can't let everyone down. My biggest form of motivation is knowing that one day I'll have nothing to worry about. 

There is this common saying that you are who you surround yourself with. How big are you on the crowd that you keep? Moreover, how do you deal with fake love?
My circle is very lowkey and small other than that just business partners. My crowd has to be filled with people that can help me grow and that I can help grow. The pressure of life is too much to go through alone. I don't deal with fake love. I'd like to say that always being behind and infront of the camera I'm really good at reading people. So I usually just ghost people that show fake love. I've made the mistake of falling into it and it really does bring you down. So don't get caught up guys keep your eyes open.

What advice would you give to anyone who wants to break into the industry of photography? 
Be aware and consistent. In the field of photography everyday thousands of new photographers make a debut. Always ask yourself out of the tons of photographers that exist why would I be the one to make it? When you have your answer never forget it and push to be better than everyone! Even me. Don't ever get frustrated, the money and opportunities will come. Just trust yourself and work extremely hard.

What advice were you given that you live by faithfully?
Never change yourself. No matter what. If you made it this far by being yourself time will only carry you further but only if you stay true to yourself. 

Where do you see Vizual Ape in the next 5-10 years?
On billboards and in magazines. I know I'll be big really soon and will do more than just photography. I'll build an empire and make sure everyone that deserves to win gets a chance.

Lastly, what are some upcoming projects that you have coming up?
Uhh, currently I'm about to go on tour, until January, with Kranium to Florida, Europe, Dubai, and Germany etc. When I get back you know I'd like to rest and spend some family time then do a few projects with models and more artist. I don't wanna ruin any surprises! haha. All I can say is if you know you're gifted and want to model I have something huge in the works for all of you local NJ, NY models. So keep working.

I love all of you guys 
- Ape

Social Media
Instagram: @VizualApe

Vol.1

Sunday, October 29, 2017

[God, Goals - Growing, Glowing]

Welcome to the first #Wine&Chill playlist. 

Every last Sunday of the month there is a #Wine&Chill playlist to help you
unwind and destress. So, pour yourself a glass of wine and immerse yourself in to some
soul with me. 

Wendy Williams: Live Leadership Talk

Thursday, October 26, 2017

How You Doin'
When I got the email from Career Services stating that Wendy Williams was coming to Montclair State for a Leadership Talk, without any hesitation, I bolted to get my Eventbrite ticket. To know that Wendy Williams was coming to my school I was so surprised because being at a PWS (Predominantly White School) how often is it that you see a person like yourself, most importantly a Black Woman, talking to students about their success story? Not many. 

Wendy's Background Information
Of course many of you guys know that Wendy is a woman of many trades; she is an actor, a radio personality, fashion designer, author, and is also the host for her daytime show, 'The Wendy William Show.' While attending college at Northeastern University, Wendy majored in Communication and minored in Journalism. She was greatly influenced by media personalities Michelle Marsh, Chee Chee Williams, Sue Simmons, and Frankie Crocker. In-between time, she was able to land a solid internship with Matty in the Morning (Kiss 108). With her fiery passion to be successful, Wendy was the only person out of her group of friends who secured an actual career upon leaving college making $11,000 yearly. Contrary to her friends who ended up working retail store post college. Ultimately, Wendy stressed that in college, 'You have to be on your P's and Q's and #BossUp,' and with instilling that in yourself will help you acquire all that you desire.

What is your VISION?
In the leadership talk, Wendy mentioned something that stuck out to me most. 
She said, 'What is the lifestyle that you want to live?' 
This statement resonated with me because lifestyle is important. In other words, however you vision yourself long term will definitely remind you of the hard work and energy that is required of you to put in to get there. And of course, you'll have those people who are DREAMERS that talk about the life they WISH to live and then you have the GO-GETTERS who WORK for that lifestyle. So Where do you stand? Are you a DREAMER or A GO-GETTER? 

Plough A Lone Furrow
"Clear the path so that you can walk your truth, but that walk is most of the time lonely as hell," (Wendy Williams). 99.9% of the time you have to weather the storm that life hits you with by your lonesome. But truth be told, you have learn to access on your own and learn to be your own best friend.

The Hunter Foundation
Outside of media, Wendy and her husband, Kevin Hunter, came together and established a non-profit charitable organization that gives back to those who are in great need. This foundation also supports and partners with programs that deal with drug addictions, poverty, homelessness, the LGBTQ community, and services that provide shelters and food. 

For More Information On The Hunter Foundation Click The Link Below:

In close, Wendy's overall presence and delivery on stage was beyond amazing. Thank you for dropping gems to the people who aspire to be their own boss especially in the field of Entertainment. 

See you at the top Ms. Wendy.

How To Be More Feminine

Saturday, October 21, 2017

"God gave woman intuition and femininity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I've met," Farrah Fawcett.

I. To Be More Feminine You Must Be Internally Feminine. 
This means that who you are at heart should at all times be beautiful. 
Spread positivity, gossip less, speak of only kind words, pray more, and pay it forward

II. Wear More Purses 
Even when you're underdressed, purses has it's way of making a basic fit more
 more GLAM. Personally, I fancy small purses because it serves a 
preppy, chic vibe no matter the attire.

III. Nails Done, Hair Done, Everything Did
Maintenance is key. 
If possible try to get your nails and hair done as often as possible. I know it gets pretty 
tedious in the beginning but after a while you'll grow in the habit of 
keeping up with these things. 

IV. Prepare 4 Any Divine Encounter
I've come across many females who are so comfortable wearing sweatpants,
bonnets, and etc on a day to day basis in public. I'm not at all saying that
it is a bad thing to wear sleepwear but everyday sis? Nah uh. If you're gonna 
dress comfy look cute while doing so. I am a firm believer in the notion that 
your appearance speaks greatly upon your character. 
So in other words, carry yourself like you care for yourself

V. Smell Good, Look Good
Smelling good honestly makes a person look 10x more attractive.
 I light body mist and perfume does the trick. 

Embrace your femininity more ladies. 
Unlock that power and you'll definitely be an empowered woman.





Chapter 20

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

"Stay patient and enjoy the journey," (anonymous)

Welcome to my Chapter 20 (3:41a.m),
Wow, where do I even begin? 
As I'm sitting here trying to recollect my thoughts on my entire existence it brings nothing but tears of joy. I remember just being an adolescent and yearning to be this age. Tuh, how deceiving was my imagination to ever think that being at this pinnacle in my life was any kind of glamorous. But you know what, I learned that you need not to rush the process but to embrace everyday; fully seizing the moment. This past year I lived by this very quote, "Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored," (earl nightingale). This, by far one was of the biggest lessons I've possessed; valuing life.

Ultimately, I pray that my 20's is filled with nothing but blessings, new opportunities, networks, a stronger relationship with God, moreover with family and friends. 

Cheers to new beginnings! 10/11/97 #Libra
P.S I'm celebrating the whole month so stay alert

#HerCampus:College Fashion Week

Monday, October 2, 2017

"With confidence, you have won before you have started," (Marcus Garvey).

Hey my darlings,
I recently became the Editorial Blogger for Her Campus Media [The Montclair State Chapter] and was then after, invited to go to their College Fashion Week. The event was eventful, literally. From the various vendors that came out down to models that walked out and served fire looks all of which that made the event so animated. I'd like to also thank Ulta Beauty big time for the free goodies that they gave us as well.


Outfit
Into the bargain, I had received many compliments on my outfit. 90% of what I had on came from my favorite store Forever 21, the skirt from H&M, and of course the icing on the cake, my velvet blue Steve Madden thigh knee boots.
Slowly but surely I am mastering the art of what my style is from what works and what doesn't. I can say this much though, my style is headed towards a more preppy, chic vibe with a hint of 90's aesthetics.

My Newfound Friend
Enough of that though, I've been wanting to tell you all about the #GIRLBOSS I had the ultimate pleasure of meeting and if you're reading this I mean every word. My new girlfriend Lataya or as many a know her as the @TheBlackSarahJessica on Instagram is so BOMB. She is such an all around good person. During the event she'd take tons of pictures of myself ensuring that I posed correctly and looked my best. But for the most part we were looking after each other as a friends should do. We were literally hyping each other up. I speak highly about a lot of people but she was beyond amazing. We spoke about crystals, friendships, our aspirations, and a whole lot of other things. Lataya, thank you for being my sidekick for the night, you're the best! <3 We will embark in many more experiences.

Hence, what I took from the whole experience throughout my various conversations with people is that energy is everything and moreover don't question your intuition. Stay blessed darlings <3!

Her Campus: The Montclair State Chapter Dolls
Follow our social media: HCMontclair


How To Be Iconic

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

This post is dedicated to the late Nicole Milfie 🍒. May your soul rest in eternal peace.


I. Just Believe
To be iconic you must believe that you are. Like the Law of Attraction states,
"it is in the belief that the universe creates and provides for you based on what your thoughts are focused on." If you continue to believe that you are that person in due time all of which will manifest.

II. Be Exclusive
Refrain from trying to be everywhere all the time.
 Icons don't go everywhere but when they do their presence is a "sighting". As a case in point, Beyonce's presence is always anticipated during an award show yet she doesn't always show up to many, only a selective few. This strategy will help to keep you a mystery. There is this saying "If you peak too fast you'll go stale quickly," in others words if your presence is every where all the time you'll soon become old news.


III. Icons Don't Copy They Steal With Taste
“Nothing is original. Steal from anywhere that resonates with inspiration or fuels your imagination. Devour old films, new films, music, books, paintings, photographs, poems, dreams, random conversations, architecture, bridges, street signs, trees, clouds, bodies of water, light and shadows. Select only things to steal from that speak directly to your soul. If you do this, your work (and theft) will be authentic. Authenticity is invaluable; originality is non-existent," (Jim Jarmusch). 

IV. All Icons Have A Signature Look
Every icon you could possibly name has a signature something. 
Aaliyah has the side part, Marilyn Monroe has the platinum blonde hair with red bold lips, SZA has her huge afro-textured hair, and Justine Skye with her signature purple hair. To find your signature statement find something that you commonly get complimented on or something you admire best about yourself and emphasize it more.

V. Surround Yourself With Like-minded People
Put yourself on the same frequency as the people you would want to hang with or become. 
This will help provoke an iconic future simply because you guys will help one another become your ultimate selves. After all, you are the company you keep. 

In the wise words of a Girl Boss be #ICONIC!

Rest In Peace 🕊
Taylor Crenshaw [Nicole Milfie]
1995-2016

Liz's Declassified College Survival Guide

Friday, September 15, 2017

College is no walk in the park, I am the living proof of that. Luckily, I don't look like what I've been through these past semesters. But with constant efforts of wanting to do better, I was able to master the Art Of Finesse. So for those who find themselves struggling in college, well I am here to give you my Declassified College Survival Guide

Tip I. PLAN, PLAN, PLAN 
Planners are essential in college because you are going to be bombarded with tons of work. So to balance both your school and social life it is vital that you get a planner with a monthly, weekly, daily, and hourly option. This will help you oversee your entire day.
You can purchase some affordable planners in the links below

Tip II. ABUSE OFFICE HOURS
A lot of you guys are either going to hate or consider what I'm about to say but you must be on your teacher's heels. Yeah I said it, kiss the ground that they walk on or at least make them feel that way. I say that to say, these professor won't make themselves of any help to you unless you make yourself available for helping. Engaging and building that relationship with your professor is going to make them feel that you take their class very seriously. On that tip, they'll go beyond measure to help you meet your desired grade.

Tip III. STAY ORGANIZED
This tip is very straight to the point! To piggy back on Tip I. you must plan ahead of time, prepare the night before, complete assignments before the due date, have a daily to-do list, and organize everything according to it's subject. Simple right? 

Tip IV. STUDY BUDDY
Find a reliable classmate or study buddy that carries a burning passion for wanting to pass the class just as much as you do. This will help you to be on your toes, ensuring that you get things done ahead of time.
[Class group chats are helpful as well]

Tip V. STAY FOCUSED & CUTE
One too many times had I seen many people get lost in the sauce trying to live up to the hype that they forget the sole purpose of what college is for. Not to sound like your parents or anything, but you go to college to get an education not for anything else; never lose sight of that. I'm not saying you can't have fun but have your priorities straight. I mean the goal is to get the degree. Am I right or am I right?

I hope my Declassified College Survival Guide Tips helped you all. 
Have a great academic school year loves!

Acknowledging: Queen Nefertiti

Wednesday, July 12, 2017

"Some women fear fire and some women become it," r.h. sin

Queen Nefertiti was the only Queen of Egypt to take on the role as a Pharaoh while possessing immense beauty. 
Do you know how strenuous it is for women today to carry such power and grace all in concert? 
She embodies femininity to the fullest extent. All of which includes: Beauty, Power, and Respect. And it is of those characteristics that I passionately feel that every woman should personalize in a male dominate industry. Do not misconstrued what I'm conveying and spend your whole life trying to do what God designed men to do. You are a woman and that alone is your power. 

The most dangerous creatures in the world are women and ONLY a smart man knows this. 
#UnveilingThePowerOfWomen

Dealing with Break Ups

Tuesday, April 25, 2017


Ladies we've all been there! That moment when you and your lover part ways and as much as you have tried to make things work you end up at a dead end and have no choice but to let go. 

So from me to you here are some tips to moving on.. 

I. Unfollow/Block Him Off Social Media
Even though it seems as if it is the most difficult thing to do, removing your ex from social media is very beneficial. Let's face it, as females we go hunting to find things on what we know will hurt us. So by blocking or unfollowing him you will no longer have to worry about him. I mean if you genuinely want to move on you have to try your best to forget about him and the breakup as much as you can. 

II. Stay Busy, Go Out More
Ladies this is probably one of the most important tip that I am going to drop on you. STAY BUSY, I can't stress that enough! How many times have we just laid in our bed and dwelled on why the relationship went left and on what you should've, could've done to fix the void between you two. Well listen here, what I'm going to need for you to do baby girl is to get up, get dressed, go out, party, look cute and take pictures. DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO SO THAT YOU CAN GET YOUR MIND OFF OF HIM; STAY OCCUPIED! 

III. Cry It Out
Moving on isn't a walk in the park whatsoever so whenever you feel the need to cry yourself a river do so babes! Let it all out. Try even reaching out to your closest or most trustworthy friend for a shoulder to cry on.

IV. Do Not Mess With Another Guy To Make Him Jealous
Ladies please, please, please refrain from messing with another dude to get back at your ex! Wrong move. Trust the process and if you're interested in someone take your time. 

V. Do Not Blame Yourself
'Maybe if I didn't argue too much with him he'd probably stay' or 'Maybe if I looked better he'd probably like me more.' No baby, there was no way to have changed the end result; the bed is made now lie in it.

VII. Pray
The answer to all your problems is God. Pray for guidance in your season of heartbreak. 


“Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we're settling for."
Mandy Hale

Asia Milia

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Asia Milia is a girl boss in the making. Being only the age of 21, Asia accomplished many milestones. She interned at New York Fashion Week, ESSENCE Magazine, Mia Tucker Williams as an Assistant Fashion Stylist, Style by D. Ni’Cole, Hot 97, CollegeFashionista, ADEAM, EHoney Skincare. There is no stopping this woman. Asia is anticipated to graduate from Hampton University in May 2017 which is literally right around the corner. CONGRATS Asia! We wish you the best with all future endeavors.

What or who inspires you? Why?
Claire Sulmers, Shiona Turini, and Kahlana Barfield are a few women that inspire me. They are all successful black women who exude confidence and are about their business. Each of their journey’s inspire me and remind me that my hard work and persistence will pay off in reaching my full potential in the fashion industry. I’ve been lucky enough to meet both Claire and Shiona (in the same day), and I was even more inspired after chatting with them!

How was meeting Claire Sulmers? 
What ultimate advice did she personally give you?
Meeting Claire Sulmers was the most amazing day in 2017 for my, by far. I met her during fashion week at an Amöpe Shoe Truck that was driving around the city for the week. Claire announced that she would be there on Instagram and I immediately told my friend we had to go. When I met her I started telling her how much I admire her, our similarities, and all about myself. The advice she gave me was probably the best advice I ever got, and it was so special just because it came from her. She spoke to me about post-grad and insured me that everything would be okay— we discussed how cut-throat the fashion industry can be, but she assured me that I was on the right path. She also took a look at my business cards (which are clear/ transparent), and she told me that while they are cute they could be easily lost. She gave me a website that would be good for business cards and help me be memorable, and also gave me tips such as, not putting my animated logo on my card.

What is your why? (i.e. What motivates you?)
What motivates me most is seeing my future— my businesses I envision, sitting at the head of a corporate table in the fashion industry, traveling, etc. I know my goals vividly, and seeing that keeps me going. There’s no better motivation than that. Also, I have certain people that I feel like I have to do this for. I’m my mom’s only child, and she worked so hard for me to have everything I have today so I have to show her that her hard work didn’t pay off and that even though I’m extremely hard-headed, I do listen to what I need to listen to. I also have a niece that’s 8, and a little cousin that’s 17, and they look at me like their own personal celebrity. I have to be great for them, because I want them to grow up and say that I was the one who motivated them when things got hard. Those two are my hearts, they mean the world to me.

Where do you see Asia in the next 5 years?
To be honest, if you would’ve asked me this 2 years ago I would probably have an exact position that I saw myself in 5 years and had the plan down. However, a lot has changed. In the next 5 years, I don’t know where I’ll be, but I know I’ll be growing with either a leading luxury brand or a magazine, and I will have my brand fully established. Being a few weeks away from graduation, I don’t even know where I will be in 5 months, so to predict 5 years is hard, but I’ll be bossed up and winning somewhere!

How do you define being a girl boss?
I define being a girl boss in a lot of ways— a girl boss is a fearless, hardworking, determined to win leader. She knows when to lead, and when to follow. She also does not take advantage of her success, but she helps others; that’s a boss. I believe that success is nothing without reaching down and helping the next girl win, there’s space for us all, and all of those things go into being a girl boss, with a side of sassiness and style, of course. But, ultimately a girl, driven to win and deeply rooted in her success.

How do you stay organized?
The best way I stay organized is by having a planner. I write every single thing I need to do in it, if it’s not in my planner it’s probably not in my mind because that holds everything. I write what days I have to do certain things, and previously I kept a blog schedule, but with trying to graduate I’ve fallen off of it a bit. But, my planner keeps me 100% organized.

How do you deal with pressure? 
(i.e Losing friends, Work overload, Failures & e.t.c)
I deal with my pressure by working out and talking to my boyfriend or my close friends. I started working out consistently freshman year for weight loss, and throughout my journey I’ve realized that working out is my therapy. If I had a bad day and I work out, it makes it better. Sometimes I just jog and think about everything, it’s like a personal release for me. Speaking to my boyfriend helps me deal with pressure because he instantly calms me down and reminds me of all the good that outweighs the bad. I’ll call him complaining about 5,000 things going on, and on venting. And, he reminds me of what’s important and knows how to lift that pressure. I also have close friends that I can vent to and they’ll always assure me that I’m going to be good, sometimes we’ll spend time together and that’s all I need.

How do you deal with hate?
I deal with hate by simply letting it drive me. Acknowledging the hate slows me down— I know who my haters are, it’s the ones who I would least expect. But, knowing that I have haters reminds me that I can’t stop being great. This was never too much of an issue, I don’t really address it, hating on me is the funniest thing you can do, because I try to help everyone. So, the people that hate on me are mostly just plain, ol’ bitter, because Asia Milia is just striving to be great and help others. I’ll help my haters too, that’s how giving I am. Karma will deal with them, that’s not my job. Hating gets you nowhere though. And, to any of my “haters” I would recommend them to put that same energy into attaining their goals!

Can you highlight an experience that you went through that taught you a major lesson?
The end of 2016 was definitely a hard time for me. I experienced some hurt in my personal life and it definitely taught me a major lesson. I share a lot of my life, but this particular situation wasn’t one that I shared with a lot of people, only because I was at an extreme low which I shouldn’t have allowed on myself, but I did. I won’t go into detail, but I will say that the experience taught me to not take advantage of anyone, especially when they go above and beyond for you. It also taught me to not take anyone for granted, because a person can take but so much. Ultimately, this experience taught me to learn how to think for myself, and make decisions for myself because myself and no one else determine my happiness. There have been a few changes in relationships since this experience, some for the better and some for the worse, but I learned multiple valuable lessons, and at the end of the day, I chose Asia. Always chose you and your happiness, because your life is no one, but your own— and, always remember, love wins! 

What advice would you give to anyone in college that is trying to break into the industry?
Don’t be discouraged. Don’t depend on anyone. Be persistent. The fashion industry is cut-throat, and it’s hard— especially for African-American women. But, when you know what you want, and you go for it, there is nothing that can stop you from getting what is yours. It is easy to wait for your school to release summer internships or see what other people are getting into, but when it comes to the fashion industry you have to go out and find these opportunities yourself. Nothing will fall in your lap; nothing fell in mine. If you know working in the industry is what you truly want, do your research and find the right place to break in. It’s also great to have your own brand. If you want to be a stylist, save and invest into some clothes, find some friends, and style them. If you want to be a writer or editor, create your own platform. If you want to be a buyer, follow trends, watch retail and how it works or even try to get a retail job while you’re young because that is the easiest way to get your foot in. That is exactly what I did, I worked at New York & Company and then Banana Republic, and most of my co-workers were not interested in working in fashion at all, but I was. I watched as the summer clothes left, and the fall trends came in, the type of sales they had, and more. 

Continue to shift the culture Asia!


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Patience

Friday, March 31, 2017


3/31/17

Dear Diary,

We often times hear people say, "oh, trust the process," or "just be patient."
I'd be lying through my teeth if I was to say that I am indeed a patient person because all throughout my life I had always been anxious-hearted. I always had that 'I want it now' mentality.

Believe me, I tried talking myself into patience. I even had mentors spew to me their words of wisdom about the greatest treasures of being patient and after all of that it never fully registered in this thick skull of mine.

Being patient steered me to immerse in stagnation and made me feel that I wasn't doing enough for those instant results that I hungered for.

So tell me? How does one become patient? How can I learn to authentically become patient and trust the process?

Reassurance
To be healed from this unwholesome quality, I refer back to the scripture as a remedy to purify this void.

Galatians 6:9
"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." 

God promised me that if I do not give up that I 'will reap a harvest'; therefore, I will indeed keep the faith in this process alive because God is perfect and so is his timing.

With Love,
Liz G

Isolation

Tuesday, March 14, 2017


Psalms 25:16
"Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted."

Have you ever been that friend walking with a group of people and find yourself to always be steps behind? When you're trying to voice yourself and they don't hear you loud enough so you have to repeat yourself more than once? Or are you that person who is a late bloomer and find themselves receiving later than everyone else?

This phase or experience in life is called isolation.

Isolation (/ˌīsəˈlāSH(ə)n/) - the state of one who is alone.

Well if you are that person I am here to tell you that you are far from alone and I am also here to be a bit in your face and tell you that it is okay!

I feel that everyone endured some form of isolation, I mean I have. But we have to realize that the perception of isolation all comes from perspective. If you shift your mindset from a depressive kind of loneliness to finding ways to improving and finding yourself than you'll understand the hidden treasure of isolation. Sometimes God wants to remove us from all distractions, end those toxic friendships/relationships, and take you away from that setting to redirect you for the greater good. So no you aren't alone, you are being redirected solely because God has something BETTER intended for you so therefore trust the process.

Late Bloomers
Being a late bloomer is also a form of isolation because out of everybody you are the only one who receives in a delayed manner. But I am also here to tell you my fellow late bloomer to trust the process. Being a late bloomer myself I faithfully lived by this quote, "If you peak too fast you'll go stale early." Let's look at it this way, legends become who they are through trusting the process and practicing and perfecting their craft. Now one-hit-wonders become who they are mostly out of luck and because they peaked too fast early on in their career they become a thing in the past. You see the difference? Legends trust the process and work their butt off, contrary to one-hit-wonders who wishes on a shooting star. So in close, "Never worry about the delay of your success compared to others, because the construction of a palace takes more time than an ordinary building."

Level Up

Sunday, January 8, 2017

Fuel

Sunday, January 1, 2017

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